Comments on: Emails http://wolfangel.calltherain.net/archives/2004/03/30/emails/ this is a wolf angel & it eats the people it's supposed to help. A wolf angel is not a good angel to have looking out for you. Sat, 22 Nov 2008 06:18:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.2 By: Dorothea Salo http://wolfangel.calltherain.net/archives/2004/03/30/emails/#comment-140 Dorothea Salo Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://wolfangel.calltherain.net/archives/2004/03/30/emails/#comment-140 Wow. I'm impressed that this person troubled to ask. That's great for you! This means you have a job reference and perhaps a mentor, since you're staying under the larger linguistics umbrella. MAKE SURE you keep this person's contact info, and before you leave, ask to use him/her for job references. (What a cool temp job, btw! I am jealous.) It's a risk, but for this person I think it justified -- point him/her at this blog. Or if you're scared -- use mine. The insiders NEED to understand, or they'll keep losing promising people. Wow. I’m impressed that this person troubled to ask. That’s great for you! This means you have a job reference and perhaps a mentor, since you’re staying under the larger linguistics umbrella. MAKE SURE you keep this person’s contact info, and before you leave, ask to use him/her for job references.

(What a cool temp job, btw! I am jealous.)

It’s a risk, but for this person I think it justified — point him/her at this blog. Or if you’re scared — use mine. The insiders NEED to understand, or they’ll keep losing promising people.

]]> By: Jay http://wolfangel.calltherain.net/archives/2004/03/30/emails/#comment-141 Jay Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://wolfangel.calltherain.net/archives/2004/03/30/emails/#comment-141 I have to admit that from a distant perspective I can't see the problem. You don't like the place and the circumstances in which you are living and have no ambition to stay on the career path you were on. And so you are leaving to do something else. How could you decide to do anything else? And yet I do understand your dilemma, because I went through the same agonizing when I was deciding whether to stay or go. It's hard, and having an advisor you respect makes it harder. But remember that it's your life. You don't owe your advisor and program three to five more years of your life just because they threw a little time and money and affirmation your way. If they are really concerned about you, as they appear to be, then they'll respect your decision whatever it is, as it appears that they do. Besides, you can always take up graduate studies down the line if you truly feel a need for more scholarship. And if you go back you will be better off for the time away. Good luck. I have to admit that from a distant perspective I can’t see the problem. You don’t like the place and the circumstances in which you are living and have no ambition to stay on the career path you were on. And so you are leaving to do something else. How could you decide to do anything else?

And yet I do understand your dilemma, because I went through the same agonizing when I was deciding whether to stay or go. It’s hard, and having an advisor you respect makes it harder. But remember that it’s your life. You don’t owe your advisor and program three to five more years of your life just because they threw a little time and money and affirmation your way. If they are really concerned about you, as they appear to be, then they’ll respect your decision whatever it is, as it appears that they do.

Besides, you can always take up graduate studies down the line if you truly feel a need for more scholarship. And if you go back you will be better off for the time away.

Good luck.

]]> By: Rana http://wolfangel.calltherain.net/archives/2004/03/30/emails/#comment-142 Rana Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://wolfangel.calltherain.net/archives/2004/03/30/emails/#comment-142 Man, I remember that time of agonizing (hell, I'm going through a recurrence) about one's decision. I think you've made the right decision _for YOU_. Now, there may be other decisions you could have made, that would have been okay, but this one seems like it'll bring more happiness and require less jury-rigging than the others. I guess what I'm trying to say is that while the second-guessing is normal, you've made a good choice and shouldn't feel bad/guilty about going with it. As Jay notes, you can always try it again after living with your decision for a while. But do see what life on the other side is like, first. :) Man, I remember that time of agonizing (hell, I’m going through a recurrence) about one’s decision. I think you’ve made the right decision _for YOU_. Now, there may be other decisions you could have made, that would have been okay, but this one seems like it’ll bring more happiness and require less jury-rigging than the others.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that while the second-guessing is normal, you’ve made a good choice and shouldn’t feel bad/guilty about going with it. As Jay notes, you can always try it again after living with your decision for a while. But do see what life on the other side is like, first. :)

]]> By: blurt http://wolfangel.calltherain.net/archives/2004/03/30/emails/#comment-1974 blurt Sun, 19 Dec 2004 20:08:59 +0000 http://wolfangel.calltherain.net/archives/2004/03/30/emails/#comment-1974 O, holy shit. I didn't read your blog till recently, and now I see that my recent posts have pretty much covered this exact ground. O, holy shit. I didn’t read your blog till recently, and now I see that my recent posts have pretty much covered this exact ground.

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